Reasoning and leave.

[Calli]

You all wanted reasons on why I banned Eblise? Well in my opinion that whole 'immature must get the last word argument' Bravo is defining is far from what it was in my opion.

I was simply going to Ave, going to give my sympathies for the loss of his hard earned position and that nothing personel was meant on the fourms, that I'm horrid in wording myself properly and am deeply sorry if it sound personel.

Now if Ave had a trouble, a problem with me that could bring forth argument (which it did) He could have brought it to whispers, where I could probly explain myself better but instead he kept it to public eye, Eblise like always followed Ave's lead and joined in on a unneeded public attack, my fuse has been short, the reason will be posted below but, becouse of the short fuse I took the bait, I bit and let myself be drawn into a 'argument' or a attack on how I was twofaced and how I was a main reason in why Ave got demoted. With my 'carrying on' as Eblise put it.

I personelly, seeing I had no reason for that attack considered it a harrassment. I put her and Ave upon the charges and of course banned her. Though Cybercon is not Blood Realm. Maybe I'm the only one but I don't enjoy haveing people who I belived harrassed me in my fourms, take it as 'spite' on my part. But in my view point, Eblise attacked out of spite, becouse her presiouse Ave lost his position. Thats my viewpoint. Maybe I was wrong in your own. And no. I do not go about banning people from simple spite. As I've said. My reasoning, in my own opinion was fair. I didn't send a notification out, well I'm deeply sorry. My life has been hectic. And for that reason I'm also posting a absence, from six weeks to a full year.

Why your asking? Well this thursday I'm going to the family court to be put into either A) Temporary foster care or B) a placement program. Each are in attempts, to help 'cure' my problems with social situations and to be able to participate in the educational program. This period will most likly be a year. Now I will get home visits, though I'm not sure when they start, maybe six weeks, maybe sooner maybe later. But even when at home I might not hold the abilites to get upon the computor in order to check upon my sweet little community here, and with my net friends. And also the idea of leaveing my home has stressed me out to no end, my fuse has been short and I've been known to snap easily and make rash descisions, which is why I'm sorry if my judgement for Eblise was harsh. I'd like to right that wrong if possible though if I can take Eblise word for it, she doesn't really give a single damn about this place.

Now if you have questions I'll probly be avalilble this weekend, though the weekdays are very iffy. I'm going to sticky this thread for obviosue reasons.

[Bravo]

Calli said:

Though Cybercon is not Blood Realm.

I'll borrow the Vegas term. What happens in CC stays in CC.

Calli said:

Maybe I'm the only one but I don't enjoy haveing people who I belived harrassed me in my fourms,

As it is she doesn't use the forums much anyways. o.O And if she did start bad-mouthing you in your forums action would've been taken, but since this happened outside of Blood Realm it's not connected.

Calli said:

take it as 'spite' on my part.

It was spite. Niether of ya'll like each other very much and this little spit-fest didn't help. After that you got mad and decided to do something within your power to 'punish' her. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Calli said:

But in my view point, Eblise attacked out of spite, becouse her presiouse Ave lost his position. Thats my viewpoint.

And you chose to argue back. Then she argued back and you responded back and it degraded from there. Leaving you in a foul mood at the end of it.

Calli said:

Maybe I was wrong in your own. And no. I do not go about banning people from simple spite. As I've said. My reasoning, in my own opinion was fair.

It was wrong to ban her. The reasoning wasn't fair. If she'd harrassed you IN Blood Realms it would've been a different matter, but as it is now she's done nothing wrong to deserve the punishment you handed down.

Calli said:

Why your asking? Well this thursday I'm going to the family court to be put into either A) Temporary foster care or B) a placement program. Each are in attempts, to help 'cure' my problems with social situations and to be able to participate in the educational program. This period will most likly be a year. Now I will get home visits, though I'm not sure when they start, maybe six weeks, maybe sooner maybe later.

I wish you luck in the endeavor and hope that this helps. Also, I hope for it to end quickly and that you can come back ASAP.

Calli said:

But even when at home I might not hold the abilites to get upon the computor in order to check upon my sweet little community here, and with my net friends.

I know the feeling. :-\ I've lost internet for an extended period of time and it SUCKS. So I hope that it doesn't happen and you can come back at regular times.


If anyone feels the need to debate with me I'm all up for it.

Edit: Bloody quotes. -_- And I stickied this thread when Calli missed it.

[sam]

-Shakes her head and sighs- Calli, Calli, Calli—how sorry I feel. I would like to kind of spill myself out here for a bit—but under a new name since ‘Eblise’, my other account, was banned.

This has happened ONCE before, and I am sure that it will not be the last. –Sighs- Here we go again! –Cracks fingers-

I don’t see what you have against me, Calli—and I sure the hell don’t have anything against you. I never did, and never will. I just simply don’t let things like this get to me emotionally. It is just words on a screen, really. I never harassed you, just stated how I felt. If I harassed you, Calli, You would know that for a fact. People would be coming to you all around the CC and these forums to like…tell you what I have said and the such. Harassing people online is like, pointless, in my mind.

Though something like this happened not to long ago, I thought that we sorted this out. Me and you, Whispers at the CC. You were ‘cool’ with me, and I was the same back. We had no problems what-so-ever. Though, things rustled-up, right? Kohari was stating facts that had no back-ups, and you (Along with others, I might add) followed close behind. We both take sides at things, right? It is just like a court in some matters. You followed Kohari, I followed Ave. No big deal.

All I can remember saying to you was something like this (Not exact words, memory cannot recall) “You do things that aren’t right, yet you see Ave in the chat—and you crawl back for sorrys.” Yup, that seemed harsh, right? I know it was, but I was all ‘worked-up’ like you were at the time. We both have our flaws like everyone else—though, our little ‘disagreements’ shouldn’t come here to the Blood Realms.

May I quote you on something?
“Maybe I'm the only one but I don't enjoy having people who I believed harassed me in my forums, take it as 'spite' on my part.”<br>
That isn’t all true, Calli. I never really harassed you. Just stated that I thought it was kind of stupid that you were crawling back for sorrys after you have kind of like—bashed someone into the grounds at the CC’s forums so badly, it made him quit something that meant a lot to him and others. I could have said a lot more at the time—but I found it best that it wouldn’t do any good. And plus, a friend on the other side was telling me that I shouldn’t do anything more. (Which I totally thank him for) You are just really touchy and take things to seriously.

I shall quote you again—Calli.
“But in my view point, Eblise attacked out of spite, because her precious Ave lost his position.”<br>
That isn’t all that true, Calli. Sure I am Ave’s buddy in all—but like, if he did something uncalled for, I would have told him that it wasn’t right. I am not sticking-up for him because he is a friend of mine; I was sticking-up for him because it was the right thing to do in my mind—as Kohari was right in yours. Suit yourself, your decision—not mine. We all take sides at times, but it shouldn’t get in the way of other things.

A good Administrator wouldn’t take things so personally. A good Administrator wouldn’t ban/delete a user because of some ‘fit’ that they had on ANOTHER website. I wouldn’t—and I repeat—wouldn’t bring my fights here to the Blood Realms unless it is an In-Character fight with a friend. And even then I would probably keep it inside CyberCon.


Here is another thing I would love to quote you on—<br>“I do not go about banning people from simple spite. As I've said. My reasoning, in my own opinion was fair. I didn't send a notification out, well I'm deeply sorry.”<br>
In my view—you have banned me out of simple spite. You even said it yourself many times, but in different wordings. In your OWN opinion, it WAS fair. In your ‘own’ I repeat. Not others, but yourselves. You need to contact other Moderators about your decisions—and back them up with reasonable facts to why you did it. Not lies, but facts. True, Solid, Facts.

I am deeply sorry for all of the issues that you are going through in your life—but things will get better over time. Just go-with-the-flow and try to think happy things. There are people here who love you, and who want to come and see your smiling face again. Cheer-up.

Well, I am done typing. Back to TV. I wish you the best of luck.

[Calli]

I've spoken in construct. I'll have the whispers on file in case anyone wishes to review them. That is of course with Sam's permission. If she doesn't give it I'll show my first.


Edit: Never saw you until now Bravo.

And I've told you my opinions on your own in instant messeging and you know I agree. My stress was taken out on the wrong people and in the wrong actions.

I'll call it spite. I'll call it a mistake. I simply hope when I come back from my therepy I'll be a bit more at ease.

[Eblise]

[Fauts] To Nadia: Ok, so you made your first big blunder and fired a moderator because they questioned you. Or something like that, correct? Well, as long as you learn from it, you can always improve yourself as an administrator. I must be honest that you're not impressive at this moment, but practice makes perfect. I know the RPFL was hard for me to build and I worked hard to do so, and became a good admin. Well, I think Bravo, Eblise, and others have already told you enough. Good luck and all, and try not to repeat the mistakes of the past.

[MikuSai]

I come back after a long abstence and I find Eb banned then made a newbie? What in the world has happened? That's just not right. Anyways, hey all....